Tips for the first date – Relaxed, genuine and full of emotion

Tips for the first date – relaxed, genuine and full of emotion

The first date. For many, it's a moment full of anticipation – and nervousness at the same time. What should I wear? What should we talk about? Will the chemistry be right?

The good news is that you don't have to be perfect – just authentic, attentive and open. With these tried-and-tested tips, you'll be well prepared to turn that first meeting into something more.

1. Timing & location: Choose carefully

Choose a location that suits you and your date – neutral, public and with a relaxed atmosphere.

Good choices:

A cosy café or bar with quiet music

A walk in the park or through the city

A small exhibition or street food market

Less suitable:

Noisy clubs or crowded restaurants

Cinema (too little conversation)

Meeting at someone's home (too early, too intimate)

Tip: Arrange an ‘easy to shorten date’ – that way you can spontaneously extend it if it goes well.

2. First impressions count – but be yourself

Clothes make the man – but they should reflect who you are. Choose an outfit that you feel comfortable in and that suits the location. Cleanliness, a well-groomed appearance and a smile are often more effective than the most expensive look.

3. Topics of conversation: light, open, interested

The perfect topic of conversation? There is no such thing. But genuine curiosity is worth its weight in gold.

Good topics for a first date:

Travel, music, hobbies

Funny everyday moments

Shared interests or favourite TV series

Better to avoid:

Ex-partners

Controversial political topics

Overly intimate questions (‘Why are you single?’)

Tip: Active listening and genuine questions are more attractive than talking about yourself.

4. Put your phone away – pay attention

Want to make a serious impression? Then give your date your full attention. A quick glance at your phone can be enough to signal disinterest. Show that you are truly sharing the moment.

5. Stay open – but know your limits

A good first date requires honesty – but also tact. You don't have to reveal everything, but feel free to show who you are.

Important:

Set clear boundaries if something makes you uncomfortable – and respect those of your date as well.

Bonus: What to do if there's chemistry?

Thank them for the time you spent together – whether there was chemistry or not.

If the interest is mutual: feel free to get in touch first!

Don't wait too long for a second date – timing is important.

Conclusion: The first date is not a job interview

A first date is not a test, but an opportunity. An opportunity to really get to know someone – with heart, humour and openness.

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