5 mistakes to avoid when online dating

Online dating offers so many possibilities – yet many conversations fizzle out or never lead to anything in real life. Why?

Because many users repeatedly fall into the same traps.

We'll show you the 5 most common mistakes – and how to avoid them so you can make real connections instead of experiencing frustration.

1. Inauthentic or outdated profile pictures

Your profile picture is the first impression – and it counts. Many people use photos that are years old, heavily edited or simply inappropriate (e.g. selfies in the bathroom).

Tip:

Use clear, recent photos where your face is clearly visible. Authenticity is much more appealing than overly styled images.

2. Empty or meaningless profile text

‘Just ask.’ ‘Don't know what I'm looking for here.’ – Statements like these come across as disinterested and give your counterpart no clues for a conversation.

Tip:

Show a little personality. What makes you unique? What are you looking for? What hobbies or values are important to you? An honest text will set you apart from the crowd.

3. Impersonal messages

A simple ‘Hey’ is usually not enough to show genuine interest.

Even worse: copy-paste messages that are immediately recognisable.

Tip:

Refer to your counterpart's profile. A short, personal question or an honest compliment shows that you are making an effort.

4. Writing too much – without actually meeting

Many people flirt online for weeks without meeting. This creates false expectations – or interest wanes.

Tip:

If the chemistry is right when you're writing, suggest a meeting – preferably after a few days. A real conversation often says more than 100 messages.

5. Unrealistic expectations

Do you expect your match to be perfect? Or for sparks to fly immediately on the first date? Such expectations often lead to disappointment.

Tip:

Give yourself and your counterpart space to really get to know each other. Not every meeting leads to true love – but each one can bring you closer to it.

Conclusion: Online dating requires honesty, patience and a touch of courage

Mistakes are part of getting to know someone – even online. But with a little awareness and authenticity, you can avoid a lot of what frustrates others.

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